When I had my daughter, Ryann, I was done with having kids. I got really sick with my pregnancies, I had a boy and a girl and having 2 kids just made sense. I begged my husband to have a vasectomy and panicked if my period was even a day late. I honestly wanted nothing to do with a 3rd pregnancy. You couldn’t even ask me about having another child without me getting upset. It was bad. Looking back, I don’t know if it was the fear of being that sick again for months on end or having another human to look after.
What changed? How did I go from this crazy woman that cringed at the thought of having another baby to a mom of 3? If you are on the fence of having baby number 3, I know why you are here. Does having a 3rd child make sense? Is it harder going from 2-3 than 1-2? Will you regret having a 3rd baby? Trust me, I’ve been right there where you are. I have searched the internet and blogs for those same answers. So now that I am a mom of 3 humans, I will give you the real. I promise to leave out the fluff. I’m not even going to bore you with overly used phrases like…you will never regret the kids you have only the kids you don’t. Just the complete real.
After Ryann turned 5 and went to kindergarten I started getting sad because my baby wasn’t a baby anymore. I missed having a little baby around the house but I didn’t actually think about having another child at that time. To be honest I still was pretty set on 2 kids. The real baby fever didn’t kick in until about a year later. I never admitted this to many but the baby fever was so intense. I seriously wanted another child. Instagram surely didn’t help because all of the babies posted were just so darn cute! Lol I brought my house in May 2017 and I immediately went into let’s have a baby mood. My husband was never against having more children so he was on board with these plans. I just had to convince myself that was what I really wanted, which was HARD! Guys I never knew the thought of whether to have a 3rd baby or not would control my everyday, ALL day thoughts. It was insane! As I said before I was searching the internet for the answers. Do you hear me?! I wanted strangers to tell me it was ok to have another baby. That sounds crazy now that I think about it. However, I yearned to know if having this 3rd baby would be worth it. Would he or she mess up my family dynamics? We had two healthy, beautiful children. We already had a boy and a girl. It was getting easier as they were independent for the most part. Why even play with fate? You never know what you will experience with the next child. Right?!
Well clearly the baby fever took over and won because I have my 3rd child. Lol Is it hard? YES! I will not lie, my youngest is a handful. He is super active and doesn’t slow down unless he is sleep. He tires me out completely. He is in EVERYTHING. Laundry for a family of 5 is a complete nightmare. However, he is a complete joy. He has the brightest smile and gives the best hugs. He is so intelligent and inquisitive. The older kids are just smitten with him. He completes our family and we cannot imagine what life was before him. I’m a so grateful God gave me this blessing. He trusted me with another one of his children and I do not take it for granted. So, was having a 3rd baby worth it? ABSOLUTELY! As sick as I was pregnant with him I would do it over and over again to give life to my sweet boy. Having a 3rd child may be overwhelming some days but I promise you it is an awesome adventure. I wouldn’t change it for nothing in this world!
Chelle B. 💕